Another MSN quiz results:
Wounded and Withdrawn
Ideally, you'd like a relationship with a sexy and considerate man. Unfortunately, you're not willing to take the risk. Perhaps you've been hurt in the past and have a basic mistrust of men. Perhaps you've been on your own for so long that the idea of having to open yourself up to another person is terrifying.
Kathleen Woodward Thomas, a psychotherapist and author of Calling in "The One": Seven Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life (Three Rivers Press, 2004) says that women's fear of intimacy manifests itself in many different ways. Some women deal with their own fear of commitment by choosing commitment-phobes. Some women date men that they don't respect, so that they won't become too attached. And some women just avoid the dating scene entirely by hiding out in a career or other interest.
"A lot of women are very afraid of appearing desperate, so they go to the opposite position. We pretend we don't need anything. But love kicks in when we are vulnerable with each other. That's not pathetic, that's just human," Thomas says. To break out of this pattern and find the love you deserve, you need to accept the fact that getting hurt is a very distinct possibility.
"The reality is that love is risky and we can't predict the outcome," says Nina Atwood, a Dallas therapist and author of Be Your Own Dating Service: A Step-by-Step Guide for Finding and Maintaining Healthy Relationships (Henry Holt, 1996). "We put our hearts on the line, and that takes emotional resilience. So you need the basic confidence in yourself to know that no matter what happens you'll be okay."
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